"Don't Prioritize Someone if You are Left As an Option."

- Anonymous

This is a quote that everyone uses. I have seen this quote in a lot of my friends statuses' on facebook. Usually when they post this up it means their relationship with their boyfriends or girlfriends aren't doing as well. It is either because the girl puts so much more effort trying to make the relationship work or the guy does. In most cases the girl always puts more effort in a relationship and the guys tend to have more freedom and tend to be a little careless. My guy friends always say "if it doesn't work out with that girl, then on to the next one!" and laugh. I don't get offended but i feel like this is why they are categorized as"jerks". Most guys tend to have their options open, and they focus on their needs and wants. I guess its selfish. This relates to A Doll's House not because he was a womanizer but because Torvald Helmer paid too much attention to his repuation. He was focused on his happiness rather than making sure both persons in a relationship are happy. He ignored the fact that Nora might of wanted a say in everything he did or a suggestion. Instead, he worked on building his life by himself. While Nora was left as an option, Torvald prioritized his job and his image. Is this how a relationship work? No, two heads are better than one; it takes two to make something work. People around the world make mistake, but the biggest mistake you want to make is leaving someone hanging. A person you love or care about should a part of your life. Does not neccesarily mean always put them first, but mak an effort make them happy. Torvald needed to be a better man for Nora. He needed to be her "superman", you know someone you can lean on when someone needs a favor or if they need to talk about personal issues. Both guys and girls need to put equal effort in a relationship or nothing will work out.